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November 2016



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And while you're at it, I want a pony.

February 29th would have been my second wedding anniversary, if I were still married. (The alert among you will have already figured out that this means I got married in 2000.) I've been separated for over two years now, and divorced for six months, and I have realized something recently.

I am ready to start dating again.

Of course, I have no idea how a self-employed artist would meet people. A friend of mine has been exploring the wilds of Craig's list for similar purposes, but her results have been mixed enough that I'm totally hesitant to try that. On the other hand, I'm also enough at a loss that on the way home from Fall River (it's about a two hour drive) tonight I started composing a personal ad.

Let's see.

Self-employed, financially independent artist seeks person(s) for acquaintanceship, flirtation, possible escalation. I am: divorced, female, 36, eclectic, geeky, mercurial, empathic, intellectual, opinionated, radical, insecure, overscheduled, tactile, energetic, intimidating, picky, prickly, defensive, spontaneous, amusing, tough, devoid of ownership issues, bad at communicating needs strongly, moderately traumatized but so over the glamour of my own tragic past, and can cook. I am looking for someone(s) who is/are: 25-55, single or in an open relationship, solvent, outdoorsy, creative, adventurous, ethical, ambitious, geeky, competent, active, curious, friendly, funny, and not a picky eater.

Anybody not within a reasonable commute of Hartford, CT, need not apply.

And then it occurred to me... I could ask my Internets!  So there you go.

Internets, set me up with your friends!


Historically, I've ended up with girlfriends out of the general social group I spend time with anyway. This only works if you spend time with a social group of considerable size, and I suspect it of working better when more of the group is of an age younger than my current one (seems to me that on the *average* relationships run shorter early on, and people gradually make them longer as they get better at it; but only on the average of course, not always).

I do know at least two cases of people who found first-rate partners through dating services. This is very contrary to my expectations especially for my friends -- who are generally Not Normal, as you might say. But I'm less abnormal now than I used to be (society has changed more than me), and perhaps the matching process is smarter now too.

I'm not well-endowed with friends in commuting range of Hartford, I don't believe, so I don't think I can do anything directly useful.
Society is growing up. Or something.

Or maybe regressing.

My social group is, alas, failing to provide possibilities. There are one or two available people whom I would cheerfully at least *try* dating, but it's pretty obvious that the feeling is not returned, so...

It's to the internets!