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March 2017



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this will be the writer's year, man.

So last night, I lay awake in bed for hours, feeling a bit brutalized because of a very funny, very apt, very smart deconstruction of The Phantom Menace that had a lot of smart clever things to say about constructing a narrative.

It was also, not incidentally, misogynist.

In small ways, and in great. Mentioning that a character complains like a girl. Calling C-3p0 "effeminate" as if that were a bad thing. Illustrating and adding violence against women as a running gag.

You know what?

I do not actually think those jokes were intended to hurt me. I think they were intended to be funny.

And yet, they left me feeling like a bad person. They left me lying awake at night, wondering why people hated me because I happen to be female.

And I realized, they don't. The people who make these jokes do not realize that they make me feel bad, or wrong, or toxic simply for having been born female, or queer. They don't actually mean to make black or Asian or Latino or Middle Eastern people feel less human. They are just... made a little uncomfortable by difference.

And so they alienate it.

And they don't realize that they are alienating me. A human being. Somebody who will lie awake at night wondering why they hate her.

Tonight, I am watching the Oscars.

I have watched Seth MacFarlane make jokes about women and blacks as if we are not people with hearts.

I have watched Ang Lee and Samuel Jackson and Halle Berry and Shirley Bassey and Salma Hayek and a dozen others be beautiful and gracious, and I have to think--

--as Ang Lee said--




I still want to punch Seth MacFarlane in the face. A song about Meryl Streep's boobs? Really Seth? Where's the song about Ewan McGregor's dick?


I know you do not mean to hurt me. I know you do not mean to make me feel less than human.

But sometimes you do.

Oh, you do.

And you, Seth, are not the first one.


After spending the day celebrating the Jewish holiday of Purim, his anti-Semitic comments were particularly stomach-churning for me. I wish I could tell my girls that this pathology is old-fashioned, but bigots like McFarlane keep it alive.
I am just so sad right now.

I know this kind of ignorance is not the majority.

But ow.

(I missed the anti-Semitic comments. I may have been fetching more alcohol. :-P What did he say?)
I was going to transcribe, but here's a video link. The bear is voiced by McFarlane. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6uBX_D10HZg

Some have said it's just the same tired jokes and we should have a sense of humor, but this is how those "old" ideas get transmitted. What I find chilling is that he starts the bit by pointing out the actors in the audience. I'm sure the Nazi he brought in for the Sound of Music bit would appreciate it.

To your emotional point, it made me sick, especially when I consider that this is mainstream American culture.

Calm blue ocean. Calm blue ocean.

Yeah, I missed that. Gah.