Strictly speaking, anyone who isn't dead still has their whole life ahead of them. If everybody just ceased to exist when they did horrible things or had horrible things done unto them... I'm not sure there would be anybody left. (Of course, we don't really believe in rehabilitation in this country so I suppose most of us would prefer it if the rapists did cease to exist once they were convicted.)
But, yeah, putting the person who was raped in the same category of damaged as the rapists... Not an improvement.