I keep thinking about making a post called "(X) things I never again want to hear in a discussion of rape." I keep hesitating because several of the things are tricky or nuanced. (Or should be, but usually aren't and therein lies the problem).
"Rape is worse than death", however, is on the list. Twice over. Because of what you said above mostly, but also because the people I've seen assert "I know rape is horrible, worse than death" explicitly usually continue with the word "but" and follow it with FAIL.
but as for the rapists having their whole lives ahead of them if only ... I don't even. Just no.