Thank you for this. Yes, we all live lives, maybe different ones, maybe ones with a bit more hurt, but that doesn't mean we no longer have lives.
I definitely hate the "fate worse than death" comment, that does make it so much harder to actually get on with living. A crime like this isn't possible to make reparations for, but that doesn't mean that the survivor won't carry on living and be able to live a good life.
Note: came from tammypierce's journal.