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This is just to say:

To everybody who has opined recently that sexual harassment policies at conventions mean an end to flirtation, dating, and romance at cons--

I'm involved in a relationship with somebody I met, befriended, and grew to love largely at conventions. He never once felt the need to grope me, make an inappropriate comment on my body or dress, or ask if anything I was wearing was meant as a coded sexual message before the moment when we figured out that we were each interested in one another in a romantic sense.

Neither flirting nor building emotional connection is harassment, folks--and harassment is not flirting.

It's not actually all that complicated.

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Well said indeed.

Whenever I read posts by other men on that particular topic my first thought is to wonder whether they are both ignorant and lacking in anything like proper social skills or simply utterly vile, because those are the only two options that occur to me as to why someone would make such a statement. Of course, when reading further in comments by people who make statements like this, I'm often find that they are both ignorant and vile. I'd love to see someone compile a list of men who have made such statements that could perhaps serve as a warning to others to avoid them.