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This is just to say:

To everybody who has opined recently that sexual harassment policies at conventions mean an end to flirtation, dating, and romance at cons--

I'm involved in a relationship with somebody I met, befriended, and grew to love largely at conventions. He never once felt the need to grope me, make an inappropriate comment on my body or dress, or ask if anything I was wearing was meant as a coded sexual message before the moment when we figured out that we were each interested in one another in a romantic sense.

Neither flirting nor building emotional connection is harassment, folks--and harassment is not flirting.

It's not actually all that complicated.

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Amen to that. I met the spouse at two conventions; awkward geek flirting was involved both times. I had someone hit on me in an exceedingly clumsy and mildly offensive manner, and even that managed to stay on the flirting side of the line. The harassment I've heard about (and sometimes been present for) was Not The Same Thing, every time.