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This is just to say:

To everybody who has opined recently that sexual harassment policies at conventions mean an end to flirtation, dating, and romance at cons--

I'm involved in a relationship with somebody I met, befriended, and grew to love largely at conventions. He never once felt the need to grope me, make an inappropriate comment on my body or dress, or ask if anything I was wearing was meant as a coded sexual message before the moment when we figured out that we were each interested in one another in a romantic sense.

Neither flirting nor building emotional connection is harassment, folks--and harassment is not flirting.

It's not actually all that complicated.

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the obvious.

Thank for saying (what should be) the obvious. It's not hard, really. Yet I spend far too much time at larger cons looking for the telltale signs (extended thumb, rubbing the nose bridge, etc) asking for my help to persuade some pushy guy it's time to take a walk.

I really want convention guides to print in large bold letters: WE GET THAT YOU DON'T GROK SOCIAL. HERE'S A LIST OF SYNONYMS FOR "No." ...

Worse yet, though, I have to sadly report that I have already heard last summer's drama turned into one of the lamest come-on lines ever: "I can't tell you how hot you look without getting kicked out of this con." *headdesk*