*g* Yeah, that totally makes sense to me.
I have the benefit of having no real emotional investment in either of the current Doctors, in large part for that reason. Well, I have an emotional investment in The Doctor, but Tennant's Doctor was such an ass--above and beyond the usual Time Lord galloping egotism, which is a feature rather than a bug--that I broke off pretty cleanly. I am invested in Nine, however.
But I'm also okay with the irony of the Illusory Sacrifice. All that suffering, for naught. It gives me feels in a way that none of the "Pray to the Doctor!" solutions have done.
But I haven't bothered to watch most of the previous few seasons (In part because of too many Tinkerbell Endings), and I was in a good place to appreciate a narrative solution that was, for a wonder, actually set up, made sense, and wasn't just last-minute handwavium.
(I haven't trusted the show since 2006, I think. So I'm just pleased it didn't make me feel like I had stupid all over me again. I think I at least get where your sense of betrayal is coming from, though--I feel that way about later seasons of Buffy.)