Try Conjure Wife.
It's still very much a product of its time, and the dude has to Fix Everything. But the title character is kind of fabulous. And her husband's major character flaw is Not Listening To His Wife.
It may, indeed, not be for you. Which is fine.
Among older stuff, I also like Poul Anderson's The Broken Sword, which was published in the same year as The Fellowship of the Ring, drawing on the same source material, and yet manages to have no less than five different major female characters, all different, only one a villain, all of whom drive the plot in some significant manner.