It's not just the tit-grab. It's also poking Rachel in the stomach uninvited.
When I say "This is so not okay," I mean the pattern of treating women as if their personal space is not sovereign.
Rachel and Connie are both strong women, and more than capable of standing up to Harlan. They get to decide how they want to respond to a given incident directed at them. (And both seem to have.) But I think, as a community, *we* need to say "This type of behavior is beyond the pale and will not be tolerated."