But if I had groped Connie Willis or anyone else in public wouldn't con security have removed me? Or some friend of the person I groped take me out?
The personalisation of this is relevant because of this. Whilst there are many, (too many) incidents at cons and fan meetings where people are preyed on, assaulted etc, there is a level of peer pressure that acts on some of these incidents (unfortunately not all of them.) When it comes to big names being assholes (in SF or any other field) we seem to publicly pillory them yet at the same time excuse them real punishment more readily than we do the ordinary person.