"Besides, women who "strike back," as you put it, at men who are physically assaulting them often risk upping the ante of male aggression even more,"
Well, it's certainly true of sexual assaults by rapists--I was more than disappointed when I found out from a book by an expert on serial rapists that some will be deterred by violence from the intended victim, some will escalate their violence in response, and there is no way for an individual intended victim to know which type the rapist in question is. The difference has to do with why the person rapes and how confident he is.
Now, I don't classify what Ellison allegedly did as a sexual assault in this violent sense, though it does qualify in other ways. However, when violence is involved, yes, fighting back does impose the risk that you might get hurt worse. You might also get away. I think it's very important to look at this factually, not in terms of idiology.