The only one who is allowed to grab a woman in a playful or affectionate way is her lover.
In my social circles, and presumably yours, yes, that's true. I'm not sure that applies to everyone at all times. For example--actors on a stage. Which sort of seems to be what Ellison claims to have mistaken himself for.
Being female and having breasts does not give the males of the world permission to do as they will, when ever they feel like it.
I'm not saying that.
A man, any man, who sees nothing wrong with assaulting a woman like this does not view women as fully human.
I agree. And so, according to Ellison, does Ellison.
Assault like this is all about power and control.
I'm not sure I believe that's universally true, but I do believe it's frequently true.
And frankly, attempts to excuse his behavior make me slightly ill.