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We saw Blade:Trinity yesterday. It was predictably Not Very Good, although stuff did blow up, and there were many lingering crotch shots of Wesley Snipes. Also, still want his trenchcoat.

The one thing I want to single out for comment, however, was the character of Hannibal King, played by an actor I've never heard of before, Ryan Reynolds (And his very lovely cut groin. If there's a Rocky Horror Picture Show remake in the works, I think his abs should get the part. Huminah.)

I think his character sums up nicely everything that frustrated me enormously about later seasons of Buffy. To wit, this is what Xander should have become, if the characters had been allowed to, yanno, develop. A snarky, savagely sarcastic, bitterly funny vampire hunter with a biting wit and a sardonic grin.

This one character--and the odd, tender moment between him and Jessica Biel, very nearly at the movie's end, where she says "I brought your toys."--made the movie for me. This is what Xander should have become, if the Forces Behind Buffy had had the balls to move beyond miscommunication plotlines, and let the characters grow as their situations changed, instead of feeling the need to bloody reset them to the same angst constantly.

In turtle news: Chopped Lettuce=Yes, Chopped Salmon=No. Also, he's responsive, which is cool--he'll come up to the glass and interact if you put your fingers against the tank and wiggle them.


In other, unhappier news, I'm noticing a lot of desperation and despair on the flist about two things: finances, and what I've taken to referring to in my head as the Homosexual/Religious Drama drama. There's not a lot to say; things are bad, they're bad all over, and the last time I can remember it being this hard to make ends meet was in the early '90's right after I got out of school. It's a hang in there and keep plugging sort of thing, and frankly, I don't expect improvement in the near future--at least, not for those of us who are in the trenches.

As for the other thing... well, we *can* do something about that. Which is continue writing books and short stories featuring irreverent takes on religious topics, and queer characters (that's queer in the inclusive sense) in positive roles, and patronize queer-friendly (Hell, even queer-exploitative, which is my personal definition of QEftSG) entertainment and media.

And be vocal. And stay vocal, even when it's scary. And it's going to get scary. And the people who don't want to hear our voices are going to try to silence us.

Don't let them.


You know, for the first time yesterday I watched an episode of the Ellen Degeneres talk show. Wow. Her audience was mostly women, but there were still quite a few men, too. And they all adore her. What is the probability of every audience member being a left-wing, marriage-hating, willfully childless anti-Christian? Zero.

Ellen Degeneres is gay and not dangerous. She may be the only lesbian a lot of viewers think they know. It's a matter of getting from, "Ooh, evil!" to "Hate the sin, love the sinner," to "She's so different from the rest of them" to, "If she's different, maybe other people are 'different' too, which makes me wonder...'cause, like, she's nice and I like her, and how can she be such a sinner if I like her. Huh. I have to think about this...."

When people start making exceptions for the "good" ones, the ones they like, it's a start. I can understand why gays would get sick and tired of dealing with such social baby-steps. That's why everyone needs to deal with it, gay, straight or non-aligned.

In unrelated news, I don't like Wesley Snipes. But I like lettuce and salmon.
As for the other thing... well, we *can* do something about that.

Testify, sister!

Sayeth one who hopes to finish revising his high school lesbian romantic comedy by the end of the year (won't happen, but a goal's a target). Which includes religious debates in the cafeteria and culturally bisexual cheerleaders.

an actor I've never heard of before, Ryan Reynolds

I adore Ryan Reynolds--he used to be on a dreadful show on ABC called Two Guys, a Girl, and a Pizza Place--his character and Nathan Filion were the best things about it.

And from the useless gossip file, he and Alanis Morissette just got engaged.
She has excellent taste.

Did I mention the groin?

*faints dead away*
He's been getting a lot of press up here, as he's a local boy. He's not usually that muscular; apparently he had to put on 22 lbs of pure muscle for the part. Apparently a few of his lines were ad-libbed.

I'm planning to go see the movie, mostly because I think his part looks good, and because I figure it has to be better than the last Blade.
You could tell he was ad-libbing, in a good way. He got a double-take out of Snipes that I'm reasonably sure was a genuine reaction. *g*
Preach it. He and Fillion both were awesome on that show. (I always had to root for Johnny... he was such an underdog, what with everyone thinking he was dumber than a fence post.) I liked the other people to... uh, what're their names... Traylor Howard and Richard Ruccolo. (I wonder how people survived before the IMDB? It's hard to imagine.)

I'd been thinking of seeing Blade Trinity just for Ryan, now I think that I must, if there's nudity involved...
No actual nudity, but shirtlessness, and if those pants were slung any lower, they'd be a Calvin Klein ad.
I first caught Ryan Reynolds in an Outer Limits episode, way back when. When Sci-Fi channel had a marathon...must have been last year or something (I know I was home and the Husband wasn't, and I was watching a bunch of eps, though I may have recorded them on the Replay and watched them later) and reshowed them all, I watched those episodes again because "Sloane" from Alias was in them, too.

Anyway, I went looking around because he looked really familiar, but couldn't find anything else that he'd been in that I recognized. I did like his, albeit small, role in the show, and was pleased when I saw him in the ads for Blade: Trinity.

We'll likely catch a matinee this weekend. But Ocean's Twelve is tomorrow night!


And be vocal. And stay vocal, even when it's scary. And it's going to get scary. And the people who don't want to hear our voices are going to try to silence us.

I am (hopefully) about to do the scariest thing I've ever done in my life: become a queer white girl working in Detroit, in a shelter for LGBTQ homeless and runaway youth. Because it's work that needs to be done. Especially now, when things are so scary. Because these kids who have faced rejection and violence so often in their lives need to know that someone out there cares. That not everyone is like the religious right. That not everyone hates them, even though so many are voting to take away their rights before they're even old enough to have a say in the matter.

In no other job interview would one be asked, "How do you identify? Your sexual orientation, I mean."

"Gay," I said, then "Lesbian," because it's standard, even though for some reason I have a weird opposition to the word, at least as it applies to me.

"Because they'll ask," my interview said, meaning the kids. "And you'll have to figure out how comfortable you are with that."

"I don't care," I said. I fully expected to be asked by the kids, and I have no problem answering.

"Most of us are so out it hurts," she said with a laugh. "But even if you were straight, there's guilt by association."

"I don't care," I repeated. And I don't. This is worth fighting for, even when it's scary and even when it hurts.

I will not be silenced.

And I won't let these kids - my kids, because no one else wants them - be silenced either.

Re: Scary.

Kick ass.
As for the other thing... well, we *can* do something about that. Which is continue writing books and short stories featuring irreverent takes on religious topics, and queer characters (that's queer in the inclusive sense) in positive roles, and patronize queer-friendly (Hell, even queer-exploitative, which is my personal definition of QEftSG) entertainment and media

Yes yes yes and amen.
One of the current hallmarks of Cool Good Guys seems to be the wearing of trench coats. I want the trench coats, too.

I also want my very own frock coat.

A few months ago I was speculating about the wearing of trench coats by anime characters, mainly thanks to Descendants of Darkness, where one of the good guys who does not usually wear a trench coat put one on for a fraught emotional scene against a bad guy. I never came up with any useful speculations, but I'm still intrigued by trench coat coture.
I realize that it may be expensive in Las Vegas, but you might want to try bok choy or watercress instead of plain lettuce. Many red-ears become militant vegetarians when they get older (still others will go after any chunk of meat they can, whether or not it's still attached to something living), and while lettuce is okay, it doesn't have anywhere near the vitamins and minerals (especially calcium) that the turtle needs. (Oh, and for Elvis' sake stay away from spinach: the oxalic acid in spinach not only prevents turtles from absorbing any calcium from that food, but can actually induce softshell disease in large amounts.) Bok choy is a good choice for turtles: not only is it readily consumed and good for them, but it's tough enough that they'll get a good workout for their beaks and claws. Keeping turtle beaks in prime condition is paramount in captivity: you really do not want to have to take a red-ear that size to the vet every year to have its beak ground down.
Well, it's stopgap care right now, but he's also been offered bokchoy and carrots. The lettuce is what he's dragging all over the place, though.

More fodder for Politicklers

And be vocal. And stay vocal, even when it's scary. And it's going to get scary. And the people who don't want to hear our voices are going to try to silence us.

Don't let them.

Ooh. Ooh. Wondering about that, and tagging it with your public name.

Re: More fodder for Politicklers

I'm not sure I understand. Clarification, please?

Re: More fodder for Politicklers

I'd like to turn it into a tshirt. I think it's more powerful with a name to attribute to it.

If you're okay with my using those words, I'd love to have it atrributed to Elizabeth Bear. On the other hand...that politicizes your name.

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Like it or not, I'm a public figure now, admittedly one at the very bottom rung of public life. If I say it in public, I have to expect it's fair game for allies and opposition both.

So, sure, use the name.

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Significant portions of my proceeds for the stuff I sell there go to charity (or that's the plan when it takes off). I figure you get to pick which one you think it should be for this one.

Re: More fodder for Politicklers

How about the ACLU?

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Religion and Homosexuality

Boy, this subject is really hard for me, but like many things that are hard, that really can make them more worthy of pursuing. Basically, I'm a Christian, and the fact is that the Bible seems to condemn homosexual behavior. But I tell you, the people I know, the experiences I've had, the feelings in my heart, I just don't feel that. It's a real source of conflict for me, because I'm trying to simultaneously believe two things that seem to be contradictory. I have known, (and been friends with,) several gay people and I just have a really hard time saying with any conviction that God is going to condemn them just for being gay. What I can really say is that a lot of Christians act as though homosexuality is the worst sin that can possibly be committed, which is just ludicrous. One of the fundamental tenets of Christianity is that everyone is a sinner, so the way that some Christians treat gay people is despicable. Those people go a long way toward pushing people away from God, which to me, says a lot about whether they're on the right track or not.

--Christiana Ellis

Re: Religion and Homosexuality

Hi, Christiana!

I think it boils down to "love thy neighbor as thyself" and "Do unto others," really.

I'm not a Christian--in fact, I was raised Pagan, although I've lapsed--but I try to live by those rules, and the Witch's Rede, which is the Golden Rule of Wicca. "Do as thou wilt, an it harm none."

It seems to me that the rules are the same for all of us, if we *really* listen to what God (by whatever name we know him) is saying to us.

After all, the Christian/Jewish God also says that vengeance is his. Which seems pretty plain to me. And the religion I was raised in says "Whatever you do will return unto you threefold," which seems to me a pretty plain way of saying if you judge, you will be judged.

Have you read Real Live Preacher? He's a Baptist minister in Texas, and a tremendously humane person.

Anyway, he has two wonderful posts on the subject. They're here:



Perhaps those will help? They did for me.


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Thanks for those links. I'd seen much of that information before, but he is very persuasive. I have read a lot on the subject and the position that makes the most sense to me is that the Biblical basis for condemning homosexuality is definitely not as clear-cut as it is often presented, and may not, in fact, be talking about modern homosexuality at all. That sounds intuitively right to me, but I just hesitate, because 'worldly wisdom' can be really deceptive at times. When people who I trust as spiritual advisors tell me differently, it's hard to know what to believe. When a pastor whom I have seen do wonderful things in the name of God, and whom has given me wise counsel over and over again, tells me that homosexuality is wrong, I have difficulty dismissing that just because it doesn't make immediate intuitive sense as to why homosexuality would be a sin.

To make it even more difficult to dismiss him, he is not one of the virulently homophobic preachers. He teaches that God loves gay people just like he loves everyone else, and that simply being gay is not a sin. It is only the action that is sinful. He doesn't try to say that homosexuality is just a choice either. He tells us not to judge, not to shun, not to abuse. He says that it is an unfortunate condition that should be sympathized with. To claims that it isn't 'fair' that gay people should have to remain celibate, he points out that there are many, many people in the world that have much heavier burdens, starvation, violence, incapacitating illnesses, that they did not 'deserve' any more than gay people did. All of these conditions are the result of human sin, the responsibility for which we all bear. Certainly not the virulent hatred preached by people like Reverend Phelps.

This is not to say that he hasn't just been misled himself on this particular issue, and I'm aware that he is fallible, just like me, but I don't think that I can just ignore his position.

But whichever position is correct, we are called to love our neighbor. That one is pretty clear and there isn't a lot of debate about it. And in particular, the word translated as neighbor is actually referring to people who are different from you. After all, would it have meant anything for Jesus to say "Love the people who do and like all the same things as you." Of course not, no one has to be told to do that. The whole meaning is based on the idea that you have to love people even if there are things about them that you don't like or make you uncomfortable. There is no question in my mind that gay people should always be treated with respect and compassion. Anyone who does otherwise is sinning themselves.

--Christiana Ellis

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Thanks for this comment, Christiana.

I also think it's v. important for people like me to be reminded that the majority of Christians are people like you, not like Reverend Phelps, or like this idiot who I heard on the radio the other day preaching *from the pulpit* that anybody who voted for John Kerry was going to hell. I am suspect of anybody who's a little too secure in God's word, and knowing exactly what God wants.

I think we're all seekers, and it's dangerous to convince ourselves that we have the answers.


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Well, I'm happy then that I could make a good impression on behalf of my religion. In truth, the people I generally have the hardest time loving are people like Rev. Phelps, because I think he does so much damage, to the people he persecutes, to the Christian faith's reputation... even to himself.

But when I find myself hating him, or even just being judgmental of him, I have fallen into exactly the same trap that he has. Hating people is easy! Finding love and compassion for people that you disagree with so strongly is very hard work. He's like that because of the way he was taught and the life experiences he has had. I suspect that if we knew more about his childhood, we might find some early trauma that festered into the hatred he feels now. Evil does not exist in a vacuum. Sin begets sin, which is one of the reasons that child abuse is so horrible. Evil does not exist in a vacuum. It corrupts what is good, twisting it and turning it against itself.


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It's still me, Christiana, but I just wanted to drop this quick note saying that I signed up for a LiveJournal account. No more of this "Anonymous" business. ;-)